Anyone with any intentions of trying to further grow will realise (as they get older) that opinions will shift with experience and perspective i.e. perspective change due to age. Some label that 'hypocrisy'. In which case, everyone becomes a hypocrite...
...what cannot change in life are your principles. What do you believe in? And how much do you believe in them when the going gets tough?
Marriage is a test of principles. I think most marriages go through rough spells. Maybe in those moments eyes can wander. Do you act? Don you remember why you got married in the first place? Do you remember the vows you made? Were they real? Are you prepared to work? Sacrifice some ego and inflexibility? Would opting out really solve your unhappiness, or would you go to another relationship and repeat the cycle?
That has nothing to do with Ange BTW, but it has to do with our club for the past 25 years. We get twitchy when it doesn't go right and divorce. Then we repeat the same mistakes with THAT wife. Then we start thinking if we simply marry super models -even if they're MILFy bordering on needing The Substance- it will all be fine whilst still not prepared to change our ways.
Here's the truth for me.
We have continually fudged our marriages up over and over. We thought we could satiate ourselves by hooking up with Kate Moss and Naomi Campbell (both of whom, BTW, are still beautiful) and then we don't treat them the way they're used to being treated. So it ends.
We currently have Susan Boyle. Not a model, possibly not even the wife we actually wanted, but christ she has a voice from heaven. Having the flu/laryngitis isn't helping us, and the fact she is perhaps not the aesthete's choice is not helping patience with her. But where do we go? Do we keep oin dumping and hooking up with someone else without changing OUR ways?
I don't know rthe answer, and forgive me for the long-winded metaphor...
FWIW, I got married when I was 22 and was divorced at 25. We made mistakes. I felt I needed to see what I could change about myself to not get into that situation again. I met my current wife when I was 29. We've been together ever since (married in 2001). Trust me, we've had some issues like all marriages, but the lessons learned were invaluable.
I just want us to start learning at some point, and that can only happen above.