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Does anyone suffer from mental illness on here?

spurspinter1 said:
Doctors will never admit they've made a mistake, rarely will a diagnosis be changed it's just said to be in remission which is an easy out. I feel like my bipolar diagnosis was flimflam as I don't match either type one or two in terms of timeframes of manic episodes, it was a 10 minute research online to see that it doesn't add up so how can it have been given in the first place?

My last meeting has two concerned looking people with clipboards and the details on the following letter were so far from what I'd said it was bordering slander / libel.

Always in two minds of criticizing a service so deliberately run down but there seems to be very little accountability given how important what they do is. Unless you're someone who happens to have the money for actual therapy I'd advise seeking help from friends / family / actual information but it's damaging to have hope that the mental health service in this country will do you good if your poor.

@Daisuk Glad to hear you're out and well mate, but anymore talk about us and the title and you're risking them locking you up again ;)

It's only my experience as my recent posts have suggested but the antipsychotics have real side effects like making you fat but don't actually help (and will really fudge up the vibe if you return to using weed / mushrooms, although I wouldn't recommend doing any of that for a while
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All very true.

My daughter finally landed in a DBT program nearly a year ago, which means we are part of that treatment (excellent BTW). However, the access points are so ridiculously limited that in order to even GET CONSIDERED for this treatment, your child has to have attempted suicide more than once/displayed consistent suicidal ideations. That's how fudged up the system is. Then ONCE you're in, it's like a whole other world.

The lack of accountability is absolutely on-point, and a massive issue worldwide.

We appear to be in the 'lip-service-to-educated-action' phase in society with regards to taking mental health seriously, and it needs to reach the last bit a bit faster!!!!
 
thfcsteff said:
It is, indeed, a growing mental health issue. I think there are legitimate reasons for that being the case. My daughter has a double diagnosis of BPD and ADHD. Her docs believe that the BPD might've been a mis-diagnosis and that the ADHD is more on point. All I can say is after many years of therapy, and some meds, the distances between several mental health disorders become 'ven diagram'esque. Depression and anxiety (from what I can see) underscore many of them. @markysimmo very best of luck in navigating the path which works for you, whatever that might entail.
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Thank you, everyone. I really appreciate your words of encouragement. You're my virtual pub afterall. Thank you. I'm shedding a little tear here reading your replies. Thanks @parklane1 and @Bullet - it means a lot. I've got a mountain of beuracracy (I can't even spell that bloody word) to climb, but taking it step by step. And I'm officially single for the first time in 14-15 years! Crazy. Honestly don't feel any draw towards the other sex at all - apart from the girl I've been in love with for the past five years, but I sent her so many love letters when I was manic she reported me to the police, so I guess that train left the station. And I didn't know she still had a bloody boyfriend, I had somehow got the impression they had broken up, not sure where that came from, so what a trainwreck. I have had visions and dreams of this dream woman ever since I was little - and it just feels like this is her - but what do I know? She doesn't seem interested, so I should just move on, I guess. Yet I still live in some sort of twilight zone hope that we get a chance to get to know one another better at some point in time. She's so lovely. A man can dream. Oh well, plenty more fish in the sea. But focusing on standing on my own two feet now first anyway. :) More than anything, I trust the universe. Life just has to be a mystery to be worth living. And I'm sucking in it all. There's a lot of beauty to find even in the darkest of places. The past 16 months have been completely insane, but what a fudging ride as well! Life delivers. Enjoy. And trust everything. ❤️
 
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spurspinter1 said:
Doctors will never admit they've made a mistake, rarely will a diagnosis be changed it's just said to be in remission which is an easy out. I feel like my bipolar diagnosis was flimflam as I don't match either type one or two in terms of timeframes of manic episodes, it was a 10 minute research online to see that it doesn't add up so how can it have been given in the first place?

My last meeting has two concerned looking people with clipboards and the details on the following letter were so far from what I'd said it was bordering slander / libel.

Always in two minds of criticizing a service so deliberately run down but there seems to be very little accountability given how important what they do is. Unless you're someone who happens to have the money for actual therapy I'd advise seeking help from friends / family / actual information but it's damaging to have hope that the mental health service in this country will do you good if your poor.

@Daisuk Glad to hear you're out and well mate, but anymore talk about us and the title and you're risking them locking you up again ;)

It's only my experience as my recent posts have suggested but the antipsychotics have real side effects like making you fat but don't actually help (and will really fudge up the vibe if you return to using weed / mushrooms, although I wouldn't recommend doing any of that for a while
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Haha. I honestly think we got a shot. All of those injury time minutes are already proving to be beneficial to us seeing as we don't have Europe. And what a team we have now! Wow!
 
thfcsteff said:
All very true.

My daughter finally landed in a DBT program nearly a year ago, which means we are part of that treatment (excellent BTW). However, the access points are so ridiculously limited that in order to even GET CONSIDERED for this treatment, your child has to have attempted suicide more than once/displayed consistent suicidal ideations. That's how fudged up the system is. Then ONCE you're in, it's like a whole other world.

The lack of accountability is absolutely on-point, and a massive issue worldwide.

We appear to be in the 'lip-service-to-educated-action' phase in society with regards to taking mental health seriously, and it needs to reach the last bit a bit faster!!!!
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Sorry to hear of the circumstances but glad to hear your family member's getting better support now! DBT is a new one for me so having a look in to that, CBT generally seems to be much derided by people I know that needed something a bit longer term, but obviously different things work for different people.

I think I may have spoken about it on this thread before but the book "Lost Connections" has been filled with revelations about the western approach to mental health - "What's that, your very sad and / or struggling with life? That's because there's a problem with your brain, here's some serotonin boosters / numbing pills that might make things more manageable and you'll be on them for the rest of your life". Whilst in the UK it might not hit the patients pocket directly (for now) it's nuts how much money there is made from hooking people to a fallacy.

As for the lip service, I think I get what you mean - it's the whole "Talk about your mental health (but please GHod not to me, there's a 24/7 helpline with a tired minimum wage worker with a script who needs to wait for certain things to be said to escalate and even then the crisis teams are usually worse but please call them as you speaking about anything like this makes me uncomfortable)". I'm not sure how probable it truly is but I read something about the suicide prevention campaigns aren't helpful as the brain doesn't really comprehend the negative and just sees the word suicide plastered around the city, that's why a like Calm's (campaign against living miserably) vibe more.

Apologies to all if I am droning on and perhaps being a tad cynical, this more than anywhere should be a place of positivity and useful resources rather than me moaning, I have been doing pretty well + being productive of late but the weather changing as well as the impending doom and darkness of winter has hit hard, it somehow takes me by surprise every year.
 
spurspinter1 said:
Apologies to all if I am droning on and perhaps being a tad cynical, this more than anywhere should be a place of positivity and useful resources rather than me moaning, I have been doing pretty well + being productive of late but the weather changing as well as the impending doom and darkness of winter has hit hard, it somehow takes me by surprise every year.
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I feel you on this. I've made a rule of thumb for myself: even October is quite nice, lots of nice colors out and it's not too dark. November is a bitch, but even more good reasons to stay inside. Something as simple as using little candles and stuff like that helps in November. December is Xmas, and as long as you find some joy in the spirit of it all, despite the mega capitalistic focus, there's warmth to be had here as well. January sucks, but try to find at least one activity you enjoy outdoors for this time. I'm into hockey. Then February and March and it's all looking a bit up again. But I feel you, man, the darkness can be rough!
 
thfcsteff said:
FWIW I think Eckhart Tolle is excellent...
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Agreed! He's great. :) There's so much healing to be had simply from allowing your body and mind to slow down. We tend to think that the more we do the calmer we get, but in my experience anyway, we really need to slow down a whole lot more to get more comfortable in our own skin. We don't need to do everything all at once, and we don't all need that new flashy whatever we're working towards.

I'm having a bit of a rough week. It's hard to come crashing down to the extent that I have, but trying to deal with it as best as I can. At least my ex and I are talking in a friendly tone to one another now, and I finally got to speak to my son on Facetime yesterday! And I hope to get to see him over the weekend. What a blessing that would be. I'm trying to catch all the spots of light I can now. No idea how I'm gonna be able to keep this apartment, I probably won't, but no idea how I'm gonna afford a new one either. Oh, well, I hope time will simply help fix those things, no point worrying too much about them at the moment.

Hope you all are well, my fellow yids, I'm gonna write a bit in here everytime I need to vent. :)
 
I'm being 'Mean Girls-ed' out of a plum contract job. Been with the client for 16 years. A sports entity that I've worked around for over 35 years, the past 16 as team photographer at the invitation of the club's former top executive.

Made friends in every nook and cranny of the operation and the building over the years. But one year after an entitled child from a wealthy Asian family shows up as co-photographer, I'm being portrayed as some sort of meany for not speaking to her in the most servile manner possible. After 35 years working in the arena, I'm senior photographer by almost twice as much as she's been alive. I'm planning to retire from the biz in two years so why would I give the first fcuk about her role with the club?

All I've done is talk calmly, levelly and objectively about our professional goals. She turned on the sprinklers after last game and says I'm a meany who makes her feel bad because my purely straightforward advice about how to behave as a professional has upset her. The human jellyfish who runs the operation - hiring females, left, right and central to fulfill some personal mandate - and, sadly, they are largely lacking in skills and experience - calls me on Monday and says our contract is terminated.

Getting sympathetic hearing from club past presidents who want to see a properly mediated meeting held to discuss this. At least one of which knows that I own a massive, 30+ year photo archive of superior quality images of the club that they will very much want to draw upon within 2-3 years to illustrate various projects when they plan to host a national championship in the sport in which we are involved.

Happy to leave when my time is up. Appalled to see myself falsely accused. Great support from fans and club staff who know me well. And yeah, for the first time, experiencing all sorts of dark thoughts after this appalling treatment.
 
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I'm being 'Mean Girls-ed' out of a plum contract job. Been with the client for 16 years. A sports entity that I've worked around for over 35 years, the past 16 as team photographer at the invitation of the club's former top executive.

Made friends in every nook and cranny of the operation and the building over the years. But one year after an entitled child from a wealthy Asian family shows up as co-photographer, I'm being portrayed as some sort of meany for not speaking to her in the most servile manner possible. After 35 years working in the arena, I'm senior photographer by almost twice as much as she's been alive. I'm planning to retire from the biz in two years so why would I give the first fcuk about her role with the club?

All I've done is talk calmly, levelly and objectively about our professional goals. She turned on the sprinklers after last game and says I'm a meany who makes her feel bad because my purely straightforward advice about how to behave as a professional has upset her. The human jellyfish who runs the operation - hiring females, left, right and central to fulfill some personal mandate - and, sadly, they are largely lacking in skills and experience - calls me on Monday and says our contract is terminated.

Getting sympathetic hearing from club past presidents who want to see a properly mediated meeting held to discuss this. At least one of which knows that I own a massive, 30+ year photo archive of superior quality images of the club that they will very much want to draw upon within 2-3 years to illustrate various projects when they plan to host a national championship in the sport in which we are involved.

Happy to leave when my time is up. Appalled to see myself falsely accused. Great support from fans and club staff who know me well. And yeah, for the first time, experiencing all sorts of dark thoughts after this appalling treatment.
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fudge, that's rough! Businesses can be so fudging coldhearted and cruel. I feel you man. Hope the club will eventually understand that they owe you bigtime!
 
greatwhitenorf said:
I'm being 'Mean Girls-ed' out of a plum contract job. Been with the client for 16 years. A sports entity that I've worked around for over 35 years, the past 16 as team photographer at the invitation of the club's former top executive.

Made friends in every nook and cranny of the operation and the building over the years. But one year after an entitled child from a wealthy Asian family shows up as co-photographer, I'm being portrayed as some sort of meany for not speaking to her in the most servile manner possible. After 35 years working in the arena, I'm senior photographer by almost twice as much as she's been alive. I'm planning to retire from the biz in two years so why would I give the first fcuk about her role with the club?

All I've done is talk calmly, levelly and objectively about our professional goals. She turned on the sprinklers after last game and says I'm a meany who makes her feel bad because my purely straightforward advice about how to behave as a professional has upset her. The human jellyfish who runs the operation - hiring females, left, right and central to fulfill some personal mandate - and, sadly, they are largely lacking in skills and experience - calls me on Monday and says our contract is terminated.

Getting sympathetic hearing from club past presidents who want to see a properly mediated meeting held to discuss this. At least one of which knows that I own a massive, 30+ year photo archive of superior quality images of the club that they will very much want to draw upon within 2-3 years to illustrate various projects when they plan to host a national championship in the sport in which we are involved.

Happy to leave when my time is up. Appalled to see myself falsely accused. Great support from fans and club staff who know me well. And yeah, for the first time, experiencing all sorts of dark thoughts after this appalling treatment.
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You've acted in a professional manner in your work place. I suspect if you had been more friendly you would have been accused of harassment.
Sounds very much like someone has set out to usurp you.
Stick to your guns and take it as far as you can.
 
Thanks all. I'm stunned and heartsick that this has happened. This role isn't about money. It's something I'm involved in maybe 25-30 days per year. But it's truly a labor of love, especially when it comes to the people I encounter all around the venue. I block out the club's home dates and make myself unavailable for pro sports coverage assignments - NHL, NBA, MLS, MLB.

One of four siblings from British parents, I'm part of a family where cultural diversity is an absolute mainstay. Via my wife's heritage, my children speak French with native fluency. Through my siblings marriage to diverse partners, my nephews and nieces share fluency in Spanish, Italian and Mandarin. Through my wife's siblings and offspring, we share unconditional love for gay and gender fluid family members.

A former club president - a lawyer - has immediately agreed to mediate a meeting. We'll see what happens. I'll be interested to learn whether video from the arena's security cameras has captured our conversation, which took place in a highly visible area. I'd be utterly confident that it would show what a civil and straightforward conversation it was. No shouting, no arm waving, no histrionics. Just professional conduct.
 
greatwhitenorf said:
I'm being 'Mean Girls-ed' out of a plum contract job. Been with the client for 16 years. A sports entity that I've worked around for over 35 years, the past 16 as team photographer at the invitation of the club's former top executive.

Made friends in every nook and cranny of the operation and the building over the years. But one year after an entitled child from a wealthy Asian family shows up as co-photographer, I'm being portrayed as some sort of meany for not speaking to her in the most servile manner possible. After 35 years working in the arena, I'm senior photographer by almost twice as much as she's been alive. I'm planning to retire from the biz in two years so why would I give the first fcuk about her role with the club?

All I've done is talk calmly, levelly and objectively about our professional goals. She turned on the sprinklers after last game and says I'm a meany who makes her feel bad because my purely straightforward advice about how to behave as a professional has upset her. The human jellyfish who runs the operation - hiring females, left, right and central to fulfill some personal mandate - and, sadly, they are largely lacking in skills and experience - calls me on Monday and says our contract is terminated.

Getting sympathetic hearing from club past presidents who want to see a properly mediated meeting held to discuss this. At least one of which knows that I own a massive, 30+ year photo archive of superior quality images of the club that they will very much want to draw upon within 2-3 years to illustrate various projects when they plan to host a national championship in the sport in which we are involved.

Happy to leave when my time is up. Appalled to see myself falsely accused. Great support from fans and club staff who know me well. And yeah, for the first time, experiencing all sorts of dark thoughts after this appalling treatment.
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Get a lawyer and take it all the way.
 
Daisuk said:
I feel you on this. I've made a rule of thumb for myself: even October is quite nice, lots of nice colors out and it's not too dark. November is a bitch, but even more good reasons to stay inside. Something as simple as using little candles and stuff like that helps in November. December is Xmas, and as long as you find some joy in the spirit of it all, despite the mega capitalistic focus, there's warmth to be had here as well. January sucks, but try to find at least one activity you enjoy outdoors for this time. I'm into hockey. Then February and March and it's all looking a bit up again. But I feel you, man, the darkness can be rough!
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We decorate our house with autumnal stuff - pumpkins and mushrooms but also garlands etc and have loads of lights up only replacing these in December for Christmas.

We live in the woods though so it makes more sense here than elsewhere. Everyone loves it. Neighbour now has an autumnal wreath like ours.
 
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