• Dear Guest, Please note that adult content is not permitted on this forum. We have had our Google ads disabled at times due to some posts that were found from some time ago. Please do not post adult content and if you see any already on the forum, please report the post so that we can deal with it. Adult content is allowed in the glory hole - you will have to request permission to access it. Thanks, scara

Dating sites...

Leeds Spur said:
I've been with the wife 14 years mate, all is fine and dandy!

Just saying......after the compromises I've made, (which you need to do to make it work) I would NOT be in a rush to have another bird, if ever!!
Click to expand...

That's the issue - I want it "to work" without having to "make it work". I'm actually a romantic at heart (aren't we all) and I guess I live in this fantasy bubble where I just want instant chemistry, love and romance.

fudge - I am a girl
 
DHSF said:
That's the issue - I want it "to work" without having to "make it work". I'm actually a romantic at heart (aren't we all) and I guess I live in this fantasy bubble where I just want instant chemistry, love and romance.

fudge - I am a girl
Click to expand...

You'll be looking for a long time. The Hollywood relationship is a dream , you could find a soul mate but she'll still get the arsehole if you wipe up your beer with the "washing up" sponge
 
Steed Train said:
You'll be looking for a long time. The Hollywood relationship is a dream , you could find a soul mate but she'll still get the arsehole if you wipe up your beer with the "washing up" sponge
Click to expand...

I'm not naïve and even know it won't eventually happen like that... I just fudgein want it to
 
So we went bowling. I made her laugh, checked out her arse every time she bowled. she is hot. I stacked it spectactularly when I bowled and crossed the line which made her laugh histerically.

took her to a bar, had few drinks. got on well, going to see her again. She is out tomorrow night locally and saturday, but I said I might not see her saturday as im out for the NLD at 10-30am so if i am out when shes out I will be horrendous, or I might not make it that far.

still normal kiss on the cheek at hello and goodbye. Im scared to make my move, normally id be all over it like a fat kid on a trampoline but with this girl im scared incase she knocks me back and I ruin everything.

I like her a lot but worried its just mates.
 
DHSF said:
Or you can just ring me and ill go on the date for ya.

In all honesty - I used to be the good guy no dirty talk on a date, no touching, extremely polite etc but ive learnt that girls go on a date and they wanna be touched, wanna talk dirty etc. Girls who just wanna hang out go out with their friends.

They wanna feel that **** man. haha.
Click to expand...

dude, you are so right. If you read my last post you will see im a bird mate of hers! next time im out im going to say something noaughty to her like I wanna fudge the brick out of you....
 
GinolaGinolaGinola said:
So we went bowling. I made her laugh, checked out her arse every time she bowled. she is hot. I stacked it spectactularly when I bowled and crossed the line which made her laugh histerically.

took her to a bar, had few drinks. got on well, going to see her again. She is out tomorrow night locally and saturday, but I said I might not see her saturday as im out for the NLD at 10-30am so if i am out when shes out I will be horrendous, or I might not make it that far.

still normal kiss on the cheek at hello and goodbye. Im scared to make my move, normally id be all over it like a fat kid on a trampoline but with this girl im scared incase she knocks me back and I ruin everything.

I like her a lot but worried its just mates.
Click to expand...
Do you know this girl beforehand? I'm not sure of the background, but I doubt she'd thinking of you as a 'mate'. She's probably thinking similar to you tbf.

lol and I hope you were joking about the 'I wanna fudge the brick out of you' bit :-"
 
Park Lane James said:
Do you know this girl beforehand? I'm not sure of the background, but I doubt she'd thinking of you as a 'mate'. She's probably thinking similar to you tbf
Click to expand...

sister of a girl in my year at school, knew her at school and added her on FB so just started chatting again and asked her out. her main thing eas she just came out of relationship (only 3 months) but it was pretty intense and her words were "i dont want to lead you on but want to go out with you" so I said "i dont know what i want, just want to get to know you" so she suggested dinner last week.

last night she said she wanted to see me again. so there must be something there?
 
I've been on Okcupid for a month, i've had bad luck with women for the past year or so. I've met one girl so far, didn't go too well as she was always making plans then cancelling so I've kind of not really seen her. Any tips guys, i'm not getting too much of a good response. Also I don't know if its because they match my profile but I only seem to get the Hipster/shoreditch crowd on mine.
 
GinolaGinolaGinola said:
sister of a girl in my year at school, knew her at school and added her on FB so just started chatting again and asked her out. her main thing eas she just came out of relationship (only 3 months) but it was pretty intense and her words were "i dont want to lead you on but want to go out with you" so I said "i dont know what i want, just want to get to know you" so she suggested dinner last week.

last night she said she wanted to see me again. so there must be something there?
Click to expand...
Mate if she wants to see you again and the wheels are in motion then there must be. Go with the flow and enjoy it!
 
You do have to make a move, you realise that, right? If you don't want it to fall in to mates territory.

If you leave it too long, the pair of you become mates & that's it, no way back. Plus what do you have to lose? If you go for it & it doesn't happen, you stop being mates and stop wasting time chasing that woman and find a different one who does want to date.

As for my life, I'm not giving a crap right now. I'm single, having broken up with ex, she was amazing in a lot of ways but ultimately things were too difficult & perhaps single life is easier for me at the moment as less hassles.
 
El Guepardo said:
You do have to make a move, you realise that, right? If you don't want it to fall in to mates territory.

If you leave it too long, the pair of you become mates & that's it, no way back. Plus what do you have to lose? If you go for it & it doesn't happen, you stop being mates and stop wasting time chasing that woman and find a different one who does want to date.

As for my life, I'm not giving a crap right now. I'm single, having broken up with ex, she was amazing in a lot of ways but ultimately things were too difficult & perhaps single life is easier for me at the moment as less hassles.
Click to expand...

Yes dude, DHSF hit the tickle my balls with a feather. Last night I was thinking is there any connection with me and her and was thinking no, but this morning I'm thinking there might not be a sexual connection because of me, I'm holding back. As I've said I'd usually be flirting and everything, sending sexual texts etc but I'm a mate at the moment so tonight or tomorrow if I see her, or next week I'm going to go for it. As you said if it doesn't work I can cut it off and stop wasting time and money on her.

How long have you been single by the way and whose choice was it?

Can mate try and help you or learn from each other mate as its still hard for me and pretty fresh. I counted the days yesterday and it's just been over 4 months since my ex moved out, which isn't that long but it feels like ages
 
Just have a few drinks and then go in for a kiss mid date, never wait till the end would be my advice or sometime saying goodbye and departing feels a bit awkward with neither party quite knowing what to do.

Do it as a surprise as well mid date, when she's not expecting it.

You'll be in no probs.
 
P.D. said:
Just have a few drinks and then go in for a kiss mid date, never wait till the end would be my advice or sometime saying goodbye and departing feels a bit awkward with neither party quite knowing what to do.

Do it as a surprise as well mid date, when she's not expecting it.

You'll be in no probs.
Click to expand...

Totally agree.

Alternatively if youre nervous - in mid sentence (when youre feeling the heat) grab her hand, she will stop talking, and tell her 'im trying very hard to not kiss you' (its an alternative to asking her if you are feeling nervous) she will actually just say well 'why dont you then'... then good to go.
 
Glad to hear it was good Mr Three Ginola's!

Just to recap, have you arranged anything with her yet or is it that she's said she wants to do something again soon?

Either way that's obviously a good sign and it sounds like you both like each other. Got anything in mind for the next meeting?
 
I dunno man, today I got mixed signals. I messaged her on FB and said "cant believe u have fridays off!" she replied "im actually working today" so i responded with "what you doing tonight?" nothing for half hour so i then said, as Im in london and wanted to know if your about tonight but that was at like 11am and she didnt respond and still hasnt!

She did say on Wednesday we might see each other out friday or sat but we would deffo do something next week but nothing is pencilled in ie an actual day.

I dont want to now go from being cool to being too keen. fudge women are crazy!!!
 
GinolaGinolaGinola said:
I dunno man, today I got mixed signals. I messaged her on FB and said "cant believe u have fridays off!" she replied "im actually working today" so i responded with "what you doing tonight?" nothing for half hour so i then said, as Im in london and wanted to know if your about tonight but that was at like 11am and she didnt respond and still hasnt!

She did say on Wednesday we might see each other out friday or sat but we would deffo do something next week but nothing is pencilled in ie an actual day.

I dont want to now go from being cool to being too keen. fudge women are crazy!!!
Click to expand...


Dude - you need to be cool about all this. Its so easy to be paranoid about things (I still do get para) but ultimately dont show it. You need to not talk to this girl for a while but its evident that if she doesnt start a convo with you you get all a bit ;in your head' and succumb to temptation by talking to her on FB.

Firstly do not talk to her on FB. Secondly do not text her. Thirdly do not talk to her everyday. First thing - call her and say to her 'this saturday you n me going to the zoo' or something. But you need to wait a week or two n chill out. I would wait a week or two unless she talks to me first then act aloof. then following day I would say what I just said in terms of takin her out. (Trust me the zoo is brilliant - you can use a lot of animal sex facts n brick - fudgein brilliant)

You been through a tough time so im sure that is playing a part as it comes across as kinda desperado.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back