There is always going to be poor officiating ( why should football be any different then other sports) and we live with it. The problem with VAR is the mistakes are still happening ( and always will) and it was supposed to stop mistakes, make the game better etc,etc but it has made the game a Varce to most fans i meet/see/talk with at the games.
Being at a game and getting the instant high of seeing goals scored is being ruined buy the fVARce and it leads to more arguments, groans, anger then there ever was before. Now sitting on arses watching games on the TV ( and we ALL do that) is not the same as actally being in the ground and the instant buzz you get with the crowd is NOT the same.
However i can see we are not going to agree over this ( Stop! Hammer time) so i guess we will have to agree to disagree.
It's not really a disagreement to be honest, I don't have a strong view about VAR existing or not other than it's not fit for purpose (as a process, the tech is fine) in its current form.
Even back when I had a season ticket I was more pragmatic and accepted that refs made mistakes, sometimes really stupid ones. I was also more likely to enjoy and celebrate good football than I was an average goal.
Buy fans, egged on by overanalytical media and cultural change for precision and immediate data, moved to a point where they were not tolerant of poor officiating or of mistakes. That led to some absolutely vile behaviour and chanting - you say VAR has ruined the game, but it's helped reduce the latter - which has to be an improvement, because there is no game without officials.
You are also wrong that VAR was brought in to "stop mistakes". Anyone that has a basic understanding of process design knows perfection doesn't exist.
It was brought it to HELP (or assist perhaps?!) referee's by seeing things they either couldn't see it didn't see accurately enough. I can, and should, still be able to do that - just not with the current set up.
It's VAR that's made the game perfection; VAR is poorly implemented symptom of a an intolerant fanbase, a sensationalist media and governing bodies that don't know their arse from their elbow.
I know I've said this a few times before, but it's worth repeating. I went to a Bundesliga game when Germany were the first major lge to implement VAR. An incident happened (a goal that was offside if I remember correctly) - VAR overturned the goal because the ref/ass ref didn't call it. It was dealt with before I even realised what was going on and before the fans had finished celebrating.
Quick, accurate, efficient. Didn't affect the flow of anything.
That's actually given me a good idea - maybe VAR needs a time limit? Rather than being a forensic tool, it can be literally be an Assistant Referee using Video to spot an obvious error. IE, if the Assistant spots error within 20 seconds and it's clearly wrong, he messages the on field ref. Rather than the constant delay and overanalyse we currently have.
That way it almost mimics the role of the linesman (AR) role in "helping" (assisting?!) the ref rather than re-refereeing a decision.
I know a crux of your point is fans don't like the delay and the impact on emotions, but a hell of a lot of those fans need to realise they are hypocritical - they abused refs and bemoaned the tiniest thing......this is the output.