Not sure if bringing it upon myself makes it better or worse
To be serious, I agree with much of what you (as is usually the case).
You make a lot of points in your post, I'm not entirely sure it's feasible to cover them all point by point. Not sure the forum would handle the post lengths, and I'm not sure I have the time. So I've attempted to look at a few points I think are key. If you feel I've dodged an important point or question by doing so please feel free to point those out to me once more
1. Religions as a tool
I disagree that religions are just a tool. I think it's also a source for conflict, hate and war. Would the current situation in Israel and Palestine really be as bad if not for the ancient holy books and their content? Would it be as locked. I really don't think so.
If I accept, for the sake of argument, that religions are just a tool how do you compare religions as tools to other ideologies. Could one say that equally ideologies like communism, fascism, stalinism and so on (you'll notice I just about managed not to Godwin myself) are "just tools"? They have been used in very similar ways to religion as tools, I think you must agree. But is there a clear separation in your mind between these ideologies and religions that make religions "just tools" whereas the same can not be said about political ideologies?
I also disagree that religions are just tools in the arsenals of nations. Would you describe the revolution (used reluctantly as a term) in Iran as a nation using one of the tools in it's arsenal? It seems to me that religion was very much a key part in what changed that nation rather fundamentally until it perhaps no longer really can be seen as the same nation. Religions, it seems to me, at least influence how nations form and shape and how they act geopolitically.
2. The wrongdoings of religions other than Islam
You will find very little argument from me. The actions of American Christians in developing countries in questions like homosexuality is despicable. The problem is that as despicable as it is it's also to an extent internally consistent with their worldview. This is part of my dislike of religions in general. I don't think you will find many groups of people who agree more with you than the "atheist communities" (for lack of a better term). And I think you'll have to search long and far for more consistency on such issues than that provided by the atheist intellectuals like Hitchens, Dawkins, Harris and Dennet just to mention the "big 4". As an example Hitchens was ruthless against Mother Theresa, and rightly so in my mind.
3. Islam being singled out
You might be right that there is a media bias that is unfair. I'm certain there are racists, nationalists, xenophobes and bigots in the general population who revel in the fact that it's "the Muslims" that are targeted. In the hours following the Norwegian terror attacks a couple of years back the reactions on social media when some people at first assumed this was Islamist terrorism were as shocking as they were a stain on our all in all decent-ish society. Just as a quick example.
I do however continue to disagree that Islam isn't a greater threat at this time and I really struggle to see how you've argued convincingly against it in your post. You give several good examples of other religions causing atrocities (or is that being used as a tool to cause atrocities?), but you spend very little time explaining how these pose an equivalent threat when compared to Islam. Perhaps I was being hyperbolic comparing a nuclear Iran to Myanmar, but I think the point still stands.
I'm assuming you're not saying that all religions currently pose an equal threat. Sam Harris likes the Jainist example, Hitchens frequently used the Quakers. The Amish get mentioned quite often. Although there's a latent threat in all these forms of irrationality, I really struggle to see how they're equivalent at this point in time. So, if you don't mind. As you're claiming that Islam doesn't deserve singling out, who does? If possible in a ranked order, of course some grouping is fine if you think there are equivalents. Is there a top 3 that are equivalent in your mind? Or a top 5? A top 2 with 3 close chasers?
If Islamophobia is "picking on Islam" (I'm as happy to use your definition as any other for a term that seems ill defined and misused more often than not), I disagree that it's illogical. Or at least you have a lot more work ahead of you to prove that it is. It seems to me that you must either argue for how all religions pose an equal threat, or you must argue for some "hierarchy of threat" (axis of evil might be the description others would perhaps have chosen
) I fail to see how you've done either. If this is a false dichotomy and a misunderstanding on my part I apologize in advance.
4. Where we agree, at least to an extent
I agree that there is certainly illogical elements at least to opposing Islam whilst supporting Christianity, or the other way around. It's part of why I think the atheist position is the better position to take. But this is a different discussion.
Other than the use of the word "unemotionally" I agree with most of your last paragraphs. A lack of emotion is is not a goal at all for me.
I agree that religions defanged would be a huge step in the right direction. And I agree that religion does offer comfort, solace and perhaps even happiness and flourishing to many. It's part of why I only really discuss this with people that are "willing". I don't knock on doors to tell people about the wonderful news of atheism. I don't feel that I have the right to attempt (and fail) to take that comfort away from people without any request or provocation. No matter how factually correct I feel I am. I have similar ambiguous feelings if people are getting a placebo effect out of bunk alternative medicine.
However I think that comfort and solace is part of why religion must also be opposed and criticized. Because I think those are false promises, and I think that's dangerous. To return to my previous analogy communism offered hope, comfort, solace, belief to many people. When such hope is false it's a reason to oppose an ideology, not to leave it alone. No doubt change, if it happens, will be generational - as it's mostly been so far. No doubt one doesn't have to be a world-changing inventors, scientists, leaders or thinkers to find comfort and solace in something other than religion.
As a final question. I assume you agree that what's happened with Christianity in general over the last 100 years has been progress. (Of course not to say that the progress has been linear, unopposed or without considerable need for further progress still remaining). Do you think a similar progress has happened within Islam? What do you think would encourage a similar progress within Islam in the future?