An ideal society would not be absolute, but at the same time it's not completely relative.
I reject moral relativism and I'm guessing if pressed you would to. Religious people will claim that without GHod we have no morality, but religious morality is demonstrably relative.
There is no way to achieve utopia and we shouldn't try to. But what we can do is have a serious conversation about right and wrong, good and evil, human happiness, human suffering, human progress. And we can find that there are some solutions that are better than others.
Sam Harris did a really good TED talk on this:
A secular basis for society seems clearly better than religious counterexamples to me. We have a long way to go to develop the societies we want, and perhaps we'll never get to an agreed upon ideal. But progress can be made, if we make smart, rational decisions.
I applaud your agnosticism and admission that you don't quite know what we think
I'm guessing you're not a Hindu? Is not believing in Hinduism a religious order without a deity and without worship for you? I'm guessing not. Assuming that you're a religious monotheist yourself there are thousands of gods you reject, I reject the same number +1. Is that the limit for where disbelief itself becomes a religious order? Seems like a very strange way to look at things.
I find the idea of a religious order without a deity and worship itself a bit strange. Add to this the absence of scripture, the absence of orthodoxy, the absence of a priesthood. What's your definition of religious order that allows for the inclusion of such a group?
Again I reflect on how far we've come in this debate on a larger scale. It used to be that an atheist in "the west" was thought of not much higher than an apostate currently is in many Islamic countries. Now the religious are seemingly flocking to "well, you're believing in a religion too". There's something there I just can't quite put words to. It's almost as if the word "religious" is now being used negatively even by the religious. Not quite an insult, but not far away. I don't think you would have to go that far back though before calling atheists religious would be seen as an insult, not to the atheists - but to the religious.
Now the false (imo) equivalency is a go to argument.