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So, what happened today?

Glenda's Legs said:
A prolapsed disc is awful. Pain you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy.
Hopefully it will ease off before long. (Not that I want to be a bearer of bad news, but you will probably find now there will always be a weakness there. Pilates is your friend!.
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Been thinking about trying something like that or Tai Chi. Can't get any worse (I hope)
 
Lakey said:
and what did you think? i went Saturday night - i loved every moment of it, was in tears for the first 3 songs, did not expect that reaction :)
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I was very emotional

Loved the whole day, people were so nice, didn't see too many liabilities really, seems Wembley security was a lot tighter than the last time I was there

Only gripe was the toilet queues, they were mental the whole day

Cast were ace
Ashcroft is incredible and Oasis were amazing, they exceeded my expectations
Seeing my litte girls reaction to them and the crowd was brilliant
 
Would appreciate some advice here.

I'm currently 100% remote (my whole company is remote) and I have 2 young kids (1 and 5) so have all the flexibility I need for drop offs/pick ups and anything else I need.

Been offered a new job which is about the same money - maybe £100 a month less. It would be a 1hr 15 commute each way (assuming no issues with trains) and I'd need to be in 3 days a week but it's a better role in terms of the action work and it also has better job security, benefits and future prospects though I do have some opportunities for promotion in my current role.

I've generally had flexibility to manage my hours or go into the office whenever I like in the last couple of jobs and haven't had to commute in years, I'm torn between being somewhere where I can really push on and develop my career or staying where I am. The flexibility with kids is amazing and even simple things like managing my diet is a lot easier at home. I know I don't want to work from home forever but I'm leaning too staying where I am until the kids are a little older and life is a bit more settled.

Have any of you been in a similar position?
 
That commute is going to cost you too, so it’s a bigger pay cut than just salary difference.

Flexibility around the kids is gold dust imo. Thats always my biggest cause of stress and I use a lot of holiday days just making sure I can be at home when needed.

Good luck either way.
 
P.D. said:
Would appreciate some advice here.

I'm currently 100% remote (my whole company is remote) and I have 2 young kids (1 and 5) so have all the flexibility I need for drop offs/pick ups and anything else I need.

Been offered a new job which is about the same money - maybe £100 a month less. It would be a 1hr 15 commute each way (assuming no issues with trains) and I'd need to be in 3 days a week but it's a better role in terms of the action work and it also has better job security, benefits and future prospects though I do have some opportunities for promotion in my current role.

I've generally had flexibility to manage my hours or go into the office whenever I like in the last couple of jobs and haven't had to commute in years, I'm torn between being somewhere where I can really push on and develop my career or staying where I am. The flexibility with kids is amazing and even simple things like managing my diet is a lot easier at home. I know I don't want to work from home forever but I'm leaning too staying where I am until the kids are a little older and life is a bit more settled.

Have any of you been in a similar position?
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I was. I had the choice of a much better paid job, and had a little think about what's more important; a slightly "better" job, or being able to spend more time with those that actually really matter to me, my kids and family and friends. Was an easy choice for me really, but I'm not going to say you should do this or that. You just have to weigh up the pros and cons, and decide what's more important to you.

But one little advice: time is something you can never get back.
 
What @Baleforce and @Kandi1977 said.

Flexibility and free time is infinitely more important than anything else where you're at right now, with the two small ones. That's basically an extra 2,5 hours a day you could spend with your kids in a time when they need you the most.

My daily commute is about the same as you're looking at, and up until Covid it was so stressful for me and the wife (whose commute is almost the same). We used to be the first ones at the door of the kindergarden and sometimes the last ones to pick them up.

They were 3 and 5 when Covid struck, and it was an eye opener like I've never experienced before (or after). During lockdown, stress levels plummeted for all four of us, and it made me realise how intense our days used to be.

I still work the same job, probably only because I have been able to work from home 2-3 days a week after Covid. My priorities changed drastically, and I've organised my schedule much more based on my family's needs than work. It's been a blessing, really.

Just before Covid, in 2019, I had the opportunity to get a much more prestigious job than the one I currently had, with less pay, less flexibility and more stressful working conditions. I'm very grateful I turned it down, and today - as both me and the kids have grown older - I'm very happy to have basically slowed down my ambitions to focus on family life.

Now I won’t say what’s best for you, but I would definitely consider the broader picture of what it will matter for you and your kids to spend more time together - and possibly you being less stressed out than a new job with a long commute might make you.

Good luck!
 
Thanks all, appreciate the feedback. Had a call with them today and they said I could flex my hours - basically make them up as I see fit over the week so do longer hours on the home days and shorter in the office and arrive later/leave early as required but there's no flex on having to come in 3 days. It would also be a train and a tube to get there - if it was just a train to Liverpool St (I'm in Essex) then that would save a few minutes and there would be less to go wrong. I'm less concerned about the mornings but I like to spend time with them in the evenings, have dinner together etc which I'd likely loose.

Flipside is this role has much better job security, I'm only on 1 weeks notice where I am for example but I do have a little bit of savings.

Leaning towards staying where I am and can always carry on looking for something more flexible, the role itself would be great but I guess other roles will come up in the future when home life is a bit more settled.
 
Got well behind on the chores but have this week off to catch up.

Had a great day pressure washing the outside of the house, patio and drive and cleaning the gutters. If there is better job to do at home then I am probably doing it tomorrow…

Getting the chainsaw out and cutting up the wood and stacking it ready for winter.

Also got to cut all the hedges.

So much work.
 
johnola said:
Got well behind on the chores but have this week off to catch up.

Had a great day pressure washing the outside of the house, patio and drive and cleaning the gutters. If there is better job to do at home then I am probably doing it tomorrow…

Getting the chainsaw out and cutting up the wood and stacking it ready for winter.

Also got to cut all the hedges.

So much work.
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I love my Karcher Pressure Washer, any excuse to use it haha
 
johnola said:
Got well behind on the chores but have this week off to catch up.

Had a great day pressure washing the outside of the house, patio and drive and cleaning the gutters. If there is better job to do at home then I am probably doing it tomorrow…

Getting the chainsaw out and cutting up the wood and stacking it ready for winter.

Also got to cut all the hedges.

So much work.
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I love the smell and noise of a chainsaw in the mornings.
 
I'm in Croatia with my son. It's very nice here, although obviously very touristy (we're part of that problem). I always feel a bit uneasy being a tourist tbh. You feel like you're on a kind of conveyor belt to see the usual brick while the locals hate you. And then you think you've found a more authentic village or whatever but thousands of tourists found it before you did and you still suck. Maybe I'm too sensitive, but although I like to see new places, I always feel like wanting to apologize to the locals for being in their space - yet, of course, a lot of them earn their living from it. Still feels weird.

Gelato on every corner though, lots of those lovely trees they have in Italy, and old buildings and ruins everywhere, their language is quite cool, and they have a supermarket called Tommy where they sell fudgeloads of weird chocolates. I also got one of those fake Croatian National team jerseys with 10 Modric on it.

Some of the other guys living on our floor are a pain in the ass though - so fudging noisy. Slamming doors and shouting at each other at six in the morning. Not gonna say where I'm pretty sure they are from.
 
Just got back from my local where I popped in for a couple

Got talking to this nice 80 year old geezer and you know how it is, he started telling me his life history.

Lives in an OAP home just up the road, walked with a frame because of osteoporosis, was from south London and had an Aston Martin service station.

BOOM! Drops it in the conversation....went to prison in the Azores for drug smuggling (2kg of Cannabis). Now I'm all ears.

Anyway got found not guilty and let out after 6 months for time served and the 'mastermind' did 2 years.

Without fail I will always attract the 'character' wherever I go (basically because I will always start a conversation). My Mrs disowns me.

The house smells a bit funny now though....
 
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