Carl,
First off, please don't assume anything on my behalf. I don't know you; how could I judge you as a person? It would be foolish. The only thing I know about you as a person is that you watched a match with your child; that sounds pretty great to me. I don't agree with your take/opinions on a lot of Spurs stuff, but that's OK, it is what it is.
I will answer your questions honestly.
IMO, anyone who engages in forums has a certain degree of narcissism/needing their opinion heard/expressed. All good, it's a human trait IMO, one that most of us manage to keep it in it's balance.
I am a writer, photographer, and podcaster by trade who works with a very high profile act. My nature has always been to write. I've written since I was 15 and first got into the music press. So it's in my blood to write and share my opinion on things.
I have gone over land and sea for this club too many times. Despite living in the US for a long time, I still get back for several matches a season. I run a supporters club. I co-do our pod with the mighty Milo and Gareth (Ricky too for some time).
One thing. Opinions are great things. Thankfully we all have them, and most of us share them judiciously. My feeling has always been that just because you have one, it doesn't mean you have to share it all the time. And when it comes to discussing opinions, I think it's important to do that -discuss them.
Finally, there are many factors in my life which have led to these days. My daughter has ongoing mental health issues. My dog is nearly 14, going strong but still at the business end of things. I have less tolerance for travel than I used to, simply because my work has required me to travel a lot (still does) since I started working 42 years ago, so I like being home. I saw us win in '84. I was at the CL Final. So in European terms, I've done OK...another nagging aspect is the prospect of another 2019. That day broke me.
So I come here for many reasons which I hope are clear. Perhaps I feel it is important to counter negativity? Perhaps because I have been a part of this forum for a long, long time, I feel it is important not to walk away and disappear?