He saw himself as 'the guy'? Sorry Rafa... This club is far bigger than you
Seeing yourself as "the guy" doesn't mean you think you're bigger than the club.
Rafa for most of his stay was the guy, he was a big name and one of our star players when we signed him, we very rarely sign an established star and he went on to put in some excellent performances that made him our main match winner for most of his stay.
He was our top scorer one season, he was the man. I don't see anything wrong there. Until the City away game, King was our talisman and his presence meant that we as fans even believed we couldn't lose with him in the team. He was the man as far as the defence goes.
Every club has players that are "the man", and the identity of "the man" can change rapidly. Rooney last season and RVP this season is an example of that... Thinking of yourself as "the guy" doesn't mean you think you're bigger than the club.
He thought of himself as an automatic starter as plenty of other people do, there's nothing wrong with that. It's disappointing to find out all the other stuff that factored into his move, but he parted on good terms and both parties moved on.
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Ultimately he had the choice of not being seen as an important first team player that'd be an automatic starter for us or a chance to move to a team that he felt would help his personal life and that club gave him the opportunity to be a white knight riding in and saving them. The way everything worked out means that he has had a horrible time since the move, but at the time, he felt that HSV needed him more than we did.
To be fair, when he came to us, it wasn't for money, he must have had the same sort of feeling. He could come in and be a hero for us and he was. This being one of the reasons for him switching clubs isn't a case of using us as a stepping stone, it isn't a case of him just being a mercenary, it isn't a case of him abandoning us for a rival.
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We all knew that a Mourinho, AVB, type of manager wasn't VDV's preferred choice of style. It isn't entirely surprising that AVB and he didn't get off to the best start.
I think what makes Dawson so awesome and what makes him deserve all the credit he gets for staying and fighting for his place even though the club accepted a bid for him is that it's a very rare thing. Most footballers wouldn't do that, most people wouldn't do that. That's more the actions of a fan than anything else. Sure, the determination and will involved is commendable anyway, but the choice of fighting an unnecessary fight instead of walking into another team, being a hero, a savoir and being someone that's really important to them is a strange choice to make. On paper, there's no reason to make it if you're just a professional that has no reason to prefer one club to another.
He risked being 5th choice CB and not getting more than 3 games in this season and the amount of respect Dawson deserves for his choice is incredible. But it's an extraordinary thing, hardly anyone would do the same thing in his position.
The scary thing is, QPR probably wouldn't be at the bottom of the table if he had moved.
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I don't think AVB was out of order on the VDV thing, I don't think VDV was out of order on it either.