I would add that your/our team gets 90+ mins to beat the other team. For instance today the ref got 2 major decisions wrong which cost us but at the same time we had the ability - almost 70% of play for the game to change that but we wasted it. Whats the point in blaming the ref all the time. He gave a corner that should not have been - could we have not just defended this corner and headed it away??? With that amount of play you cant blame the ref as you must have been below par in the first place not to have won the game.
I see your point. However, 1 major game changing decision (a disallowed goal) and 1 minor decision (a corner they shouldn't have had) is a bit of a handicap.
I will add that there is another team playing against you, if their strategy is to defend well, 1 goal is a huge advantage, let alone 2. If someone gave Spurs 2 goals against Barca and all we had to do was defend in order to do an Inter Milan and get to the CL final, I'd really be disappointed if we let go of that. Inter restricted Barca to scoring 1 goal and they had 10 men. If that hadn't have been a Jose Mourinho team, people would have laughed at Barca for being unable to score against 10 men that just wanted to defend a 2 goal lead from another match.
It's very difficult to score 3 goals against a team that defends the entire time. If they concede 1 goal and attack, then it's much easier to score against them. But you have 11 people that are getting paid to be able to play football vs another 11 people that are getting paid to be able to play football... If one of those teams is more skilled, the other team would be taking a huge risk to try to outplay them.
I also want to add that what you said for the Wolves game is true. Chelsea are a better team, so Webb made more of an impact there and Foy was the worst because he didn't give fouls, so Stoke could kick the hell out of people and we wouldn't get free kicks unless the ball was near our corner flag. Ignoring the huge huge huge game changing decisions he got wrong, even ignoring the couple of corners he got wrong, his inability to give free kicks said to Stoke "kick them up in the air, I don't care"... I know at the start he was kind enough to give a few free kicks against Woodgate, but after the first 30 minutes, he stopped giving us anything when we were anywhere near their box. Although Kaboul obviously was wrong to make a tackle 10% as bad as the fouls we didn't even get free kicks for and he got sent off. *Shrug.*
Webb was departedly bad though. He was sort of fair when it came to not sending off one of their players for three bookable offenses, Ade got the same treatment. Plus he came shortly after Foy at Stoke, so compared to that, he looked like the best ref in the world.