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Is Supporting Spurs Bad for Your Health

paxtonwolf

paxtonwolf

Martin Peters
I feel there could be a similar thread somehwere, but I could not find, apologies (Admin please merge if needed)

I ask this because I feel it can be, almost akin to a drug or alocohol addition

As some may be aware I attempted to take a break from the forum and supporting the club in general. This season in partucular I was finding that a defeat especially, in an early Saturday ko or 3pm was totally ruining the weekend and putting me in a foul mood for the rest of the weekend and into Monday/Tuesday.

Driving back home from a game, Mrs PW knew not to consider engaging into conservation until we had at least reach Luton on the M1.

Many seasons ago, I started with a Bowel condition which I was informed could be triggered by high stress/anxiety levels, during a consultation I happened to mention one of the first 'attacks' had started during a trip to London to watch a NLD. The Doctor stopped me and joked ' Supporting Tottenham would make abybody ill'
I look back and think it could be true

Dropping into the relegation battle compounded the whole affair, watching matches I felt numb anticipating the worst, but still gutted after the whistle. In the end, the appointment of Tudor almost did if for me, but then RDZ with the possibility he might want to make Greenwood his 1st signing, rightly or wrongly, pushed me too far.

Mrs PW and myself were massive fans of Jermaine Defoe, so when he became boss of Woking I stupidly thought I could switch to following them and he might be a more enjoybale experience, which is where by addiction theory kicked in. I just could not do it, the passion for Woking was not there, no buzz from a win, no sickness
at a defeat.

No, I am hooked on Tottenham, they are 100% in my blood. I wont be leaving again (not that I think that bothers anybody either way, dont take that statement the wrong way)
What happens in the next 21 days happens, and if we happen to get relegated, then, providing my beloved Astra can manage the trips (Bought the weekend before Sonny scored his 1st PL goal for us) we hope to be making a lot more live games

COYS (Lets do this on Monday night)
 
It’s been great for me. A fantastic connection with my dad, met loads of friends, found my love for building websites when I built the OzSpurs website aged 13, travelled all over the world to see them.

We lose more games than I’d like, but I love belonging to something that has real meaning and provides an outlet, good or bad.

Edit: that might sound more boastful than I intended. I too have definitely ridden the waves of Spurs-induced depression but now aged 38 I try to enjoy the highs as much as possible. Whether intentional or not, my dad embedded a "there's always next week" outlook and I really believe that. Even if we go down, I'm already excited for another season of Spurs.
 
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So I recognise a lot of this and have been thinking about this a lot recently.

My relationship with Spurs has changed a lot since my first child came along five years ago. I spend a lot less time going - which is fine, I want to play an active role in their lives growing up, they're still so little and the weekend time with them is precious to me - and have broadly found defeats much easier to stomach since they've arrived. However, I've found these past few months - where there is 'real' jeopardy - horrific and they have really impacted me mentally, more than I thought possible given this newfound sense of perspective.

I took redundancy / settled with my previous employer at the end of last year, so this run has coincided with a time where I've been trying to find another job - unsuccessfully so far, but I have a couple of irons in the fire where one of them hopefully comes to fruition - and my self-esteem and sense of self-worth has taken a bit of a battering. Where Spurs comes in, I think, is that I find they are so closely tied to my identity having supported them for 35 years now, so I think the fact that I've been struggling a bit in daily life is compounded by their struggles and the helplessness of it all. When things outside of your control are causing you distress, that can be tough, and it's obviously about focusing in on what you can control to regain perspective and a 'grip on the wheel'.

The Brighton game was telling as as the equaliser went in, I just put my head in my hands and said quietly 'oh no' and I felt the jig was up for us then. My poor 5 year old son came up and cuddled me and asked 'Daddy? What's wrong?' which did help. I was able to snap out of it the next day, but there has been this sort of lingering dread in my stomach that I've struggled to shift. This has, admittedly, lifted a little in the last couple of weeks, coinciding with work opportunities cropping up and seemingly Spurs rising from the ashes.

I'm sort of rambling a bit, but I guess it's just a response to @paxtonwolf to say you're not alone and I do see Spurs as something akin to an addiction. Even when I felt I had a good handle on managing the emotions around supporting them, this last few months has really kicked me in the balls and messed with my head in a way I don't really understand or feel totally in control of. Such is our blessing and our curse. I love @tommysvr view above and feels akin to what a healthy relationship with the club looks like, to me at least. I guess our relationships with Spurs are so very, very personal and very much our own.

Anyway, enough moping and naval-gazing for now - COYS and onwards!
 
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paxtonwolf said:
I feel there could be a similar thread somehwere, but I could not find, apologies (Admin please merge if needed)

I ask this because I feel it can be, almost akin to a drug or alocohol addition

As some may be aware I attempted to take a break from the forum and supporting the club in general. This season in partucular I was finding that a defeat especially, in an early Saturday ko or 3pm was totally ruining the weekend and putting me in a foul mood for the rest of the weekend and into Monday/Tuesday.

Driving back home from a game, Mrs PW knew not to consider engaging into conservation until we had at least reach Luton on the M1.

Many seasons ago, I started with a Bowel condition which I was informed could be triggered by high stress/anxiety levels, during a consultation I happened to mention one of the first 'attacks' had started during a trip to London to watch a NLD. The Doctor stopped me and joked ' Supporting Tottenham would make abybody ill'
I look back and think it could be true

Dropping into the relegation battle compounded the whole affair, watching matches I felt numb anticipating the worst, but still gutted after the whistle. In the end, the appointment of Tudor almost did if for me, but then RDZ with the possibility he might want to make Greenwood his 1st signing, rightly or wrongly, pushed me too far.

Mrs PW and myself were massive fans of Jermaine Defoe, so when he became boss of Woking I stupidly thought I could switch to following them and he might be a more enjoybale experience, which is where by addiction theory kicked in. I just could not do it, the passion for Woking was not there, no buzz from a win, no sickness
at a defeat.

No, I am hooked on Tottenham, they are 100% in my blood. I wont be leaving again (not that I think that bothers anybody either way, dont take that statement the wrong way)
What happens in the next 21 days happens, and if we happen to get relegated, then, providing my beloved Astra can manage the trips (Bought the weekend before Sonny scored his 1st PL goal for us) we hope to be making a lot more live games

COYS (Lets do this on Monday night)
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I left the forum for a couple of months earlier this year because I felt every discussion was becoming an argument and it was obvious that our plight was affecting a lot of people, myself included.
Watching the Saudi Sportswashing Machine game I was ranting like a manic and my wife came in and said I was heading for a heart attack. After that performance I was convinced we were going down, that didn't bother me as much as I thought it would, we may be in a lower league but there would still be a tottenham hotspur.
I also have a bowel condition triggered by stress, which as a stress junkie is not a good problem to have, spurs are a release for me, there's nothing better than watching the spurs, especially when they win, and there's a lot of emotional baggage attached to my love of spurs. I'm sure I'm not alone in this but at the final whistle in bilbao in burst into tears.
So yes the lows can be the pits of despair and detrimental to our health, but by GHod the highs are euphoric and such a boost.
If only we had more of the euphoria than the middle of road meh we've had for so long.
 
tommysvr said:
It’s been great for me. A fantastic connection with my dad, met loads of friends, found my love for building websites when I built the OzSpurs website aged 13, travelled all over the world to see them.

We lose more games than I’d like, but I love belonging to something that has real meaning and provides an outlet, good or bad.

Edit: that might sound more boastful than I intended. I too have definitely ridden the waves of Spurs-induced depression but now aged 38 I try to enjoy the highs as much as possible. Whether intentional or not, my dad embedded a "there's always next week" outlook and I really believe that. Even if we go down, I'm already excited for another season of Spurs.
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That's exactly what my dad installed in me, just like the old Nat "King" Cole song.
 
DaveT316 said:
So I recognise a lot of this and have been thinking about this a lot recently.

My relationship with Spurs has changed a lot since my first child came along five years ago. I spend a lot less time going - which is fine, I want to play an active role in their lives growing up, they're still so little and the weekend time with them is precious to me - and have broadly found defeats much easier to stomach since they've arrived. However, I've found these past few months - where there is 'real' jeopardy - horrific and they have really impacted me mentally, more than I thought possible given this newfound sense of perspective.

I took redundancy / settled with my previous employer at the end of last year, so this run has coincided with a time where I've been trying to find another job - unsuccessfully so far, but I have a couple of irons in the fire where one of them hopefully comes to fruition - and my self-esteem and sense of self-worth has taken a bit of a battering. Where Spurs comes in, I think, is that I find they are so closely tied to my identity having supported them for 35 years now, so I think the fact that I've been struggling a bit in daily life is compounded by their struggles and the helplessness of it all. When things outside of your control are causing you distress, that can be tough, and it's obviously about focusing in on what you can control to regain perspective and a 'grip on the wheel'.

The Brighton game was telling as as the equaliser went in, I just put my head in my hands and said quietly 'oh no' and I felt the jig was up for us then. My poor 5 year old son came up and cuddled me and asked 'Daddy? What's wrong?' which did help. I was able to snap out of it the next day, but there has been this sort of lingering dread in my stomach that I've struggled to shift. This has, admittedly, lifted a little in the last couple of weeks, coinciding with work opportunities cropping up and seemingly Spurs rising from the ashes.

I'm sort of rambling a bit, but I guess it's just a response to @paxtonwolf to say you're not alone and I do see Spurs as something akin to an addiction. Even when I felt I had a good handle on managing the emotions around supporting them, this last few months has really kicked me in the balls and messed with my head in a way I don't really understand or feel totally in control of. Such is our blessing and our curse. I love @tommysvr view above and feels akin to what a healthy relationship with the club looks like, to me at least. I guess our relationships with Spurs are so very, very personal and very much our own.

Anyway, enough moping and naval-gazing for now - COYS and onwards!
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Appreciate the reply. Good luck with the work opportunities too
 
glasgowspur said:
I left the forum for a couple of months earlier this year because I felt every discussion was becoming an argument and it was obvious that our plight was affecting a lot of people, myself included.
Watching the Saudi Sportswashing Machine game I was ranting like a manic and my wife came in and said I was heading for a heart attack. After that performance I was convinced we were going down, that didn't bother me as much as I thought it would, we may be in a lower league but there would still be a tottenham hotspur.
I also have a bowel condition triggered by stress, which as a stress junkie is not a good problem to have, spurs are a release for me, there's nothing better than watching the spurs, especially when they win, and there's a lot of emotional baggage attached to my love of spurs. I'm sure I'm not alone in this but at the final whistle in bilbao in burst into tears.
So yes the lows can be the pits of despair and detrimental to our health, but by GHod the highs are euphoric and such a boost.
If only we had more of the euphoria than the middle of road meh we've had for so long.
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Thanks for replying. My condition sounds very similar, as Mrs PW says, I am a proper stress-head which does not help. Totally agree about the highs, Ajax away and Europa FInal being the ultimates
 
glasgowspur said:
I left the forum for a couple of months earlier this year because I felt every discussion was becoming an argument and it was obvious that our plight was affecting a lot of people, myself included.
Watching the Saudi Sportswashing Machine game I was ranting like a manic and my wife came in and said I was heading for a heart attack. After that performance I was convinced we were going down, that didn't bother me as much as I thought it would, we may be in a lower league but there would still be a tottenham hotspur.
I also have a bowel condition triggered by stress, which as a stress junkie is not a good problem to have, spurs are a release for me, there's nothing better than watching the spurs, especially when they win, and there's a lot of emotional baggage attached to my love of spurs. I'm sure I'm not alone in this but at the final whistle in bilbao in burst into tears.
So yes the lows can be the pits of despair and detrimental to our health, but by GHod the highs are euphoric and such a boost.
If only we had more of the euphoria than the middle of road meh we've had for so long.
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No it wasn't. That's ridiculous. I hope you can back that up.
Daniel Postecoglu out.
 
I know this will sound sad to a lot of fans on here but following Spurs has taken up most of my spare time over the last 60 years. I have turned down a few [ really good jobs] jobs over that time because it would have meant being unable to get to games.

Because of that i have allways taken jobs that mean i am in control of my work time and do not have to worry about not having to miss games because of work/time and i decided the best way of doing that is to be self employed.

It is crazy really what following a team can do us all but despite all the bad results over the years i have been lucky enough to have seen all our great times and the sucsess we have been able to get.


COYS.
 
I really understand how Paxtonwolf feels. I have mentioned on the forum that the days of Spurs losing ruining my weekend/week are long gone but they still have ways of making me slump down head in hands like DaveT316 said earlier as the Brighton equaliser went in. But as I said the feeling doesn`t last that long these days. But it is my 2 sons I feel for. In these days of social media they have to put up with lots of brick getting posted especially this season with the situation Spurs and Arsenal are in. We are all praying Arsenal win eff all, then on the other hand want them to stuff West Ham today. TBH I was more gutted with Emirates Marketing Project drawing with Everton than any of our results this season so that probably tells you something.
On a positive note my oldest son sent me a video from the away end at Villa of the mad joy and celebrations as we scored properly cheered me up. But until we are mathematically safe we must all endure the anxiety and stress that comes from watching us this season.
Its the hope that kills you!
COYS
 
parklane1 said:
I know this will sound sad to a lot of fans on here but following Spurs has taken up most of my spare time over the last 60 years. I have turned down a few [ really good jobs] jobs over that time because it would have meant being unable to get to games.

Because of that i have allways taken jobs that mean i am in control of my work time and do not have to worry about not having to miss games because of work/time and i decided the best way of doing that is to be self employed.

It is crazy really what following a team can do us all but despite all the bad results over the years i have been lucky enough to have seen all our great times and the sucsess we have been able to get.


COYS.
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I can 100% relate to what you are saying
 
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