Mentally detaching myself from Spurs has been very good for me - it came naturally, of course, as I grew older and had kids, etc., but it was a bit of a concious decision too. There was a time when a loss would ruin not just an evening or a day, but a whole week. There were times when I'd pull my hair out because of ITK rumours or transfers that never materialised. It wasn't healthy.
I can still be upset or annoyed from a loss, and I do worry about our lack of transfer dealings and what it could mean to the club, but it's mostly just for the moment. When I close my browser tab and leave GG for a while, I will switch it all off until the next time I check in. It's a massive upside for my mental well being.