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Why do we become attached to inanimate objects?

I've just sold a big lump of metal, commonly known as a Ford Focus, that I've owned since October 2001, and watching it drive away I was in pieces :oops:

Does anyone else get like this?

Admittedly, lots of memories attached, not least my old Dads last journey anywhere was in it, along with various dogs we have said goodbye to over the years, but I feel a bit of a wally.

8-[
 
Sold a Galaxie 63 & 64 in my time...each one a heart breaker for different reasons. Still sometimes pretend my VW Passat station waggon is that 64. I look like a part when I do. :(...
 
Crawley said:
Why do we become attached to inanimate objects?

I've just sold a big lump of metal, commonly known as a Ford Focus, that I've owned since October 2001, and watching it drive away I was in pieces :oops:

Does anyone else get like this?

Admittedly, lots of memories attached, not least my old Dads last journey anywhere was in it, along with various dogs we have said goodbye to over the years, but I feel a bit of a wally.

8-[
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Quite a few of us when Huddlestone goes...
 
Cars naturally will have a lot of sentiment - be it as kids or adults. My brother sold our old Opel Rekord Berlina for 20 quid (1978) and it was upsetting. Had journeys across Europe, an accident in Zagreb (including dodgy local police), parked up by the Black Forest is Germany where they slept and I, a 7 year old went and bought an ice lolly with my Deutch Marks :D, tried to start it up as a kid without my dad's knowledge and scared the brick out of me, getting stuck in mud during the night in a hill in the North of Turkey (this is my parents and siblings) - dad finding big leafs to sort it out... so many memories... it does become part of the family.
 
my bike gets treated better than the car, the wife reckons it gets treated better than the kids as well
 
It's a strange one perhaps, but a perfectly natural and healthy reaction. Studies have shown that just being exposed to an object will make us like it more as we become used to it. Even without the stories like the nice one about your dad Crawley we would grow attached to objects over time.

My view on this is that although there's a very real separation discomfort at least when we get rid of or lose an inanimate object we are fond of the memories really don't disappear with the object. The experiences remain experienced and the memories remain in our minds. If we feel distanced from those memories we cherish we can bring them back again, we can even try to associate them with new objects. Very often the good memories are about other people or animals like Crawley and Papercut touchingly described, not as much about the objects themselves. Those stories can be re-told and those memories can be relived even without the trigger of the object we first associated with it.
 
when i was younger i would be very precious about stuff, maybe even treasure the material things i owned. very attached.

in recent years (the last ten) this has completely flipped, material things mean absolute zero to me. someone could break in and take everything from my house and i wouldn't care one jot. i do sometimes wonder if i've become a bit stone hearted,or perhaps i,m just not piling up the memories like i used too with cars,guitars,houses etc as the wallpaper to those moments.

Now when our last cat died i bawled my eyes out:) and touching people-y stuff on the tele really gets the emotions going, so i suppose i'm not completely dead inside.
 
I treat my car like brick and have no attachment to it whatsoever. Couldn't give two bricks about cars.
 
raboner said:
I treat my car like brick and have no attachment to it whatsoever. Couldn't give two bricks about cars.
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Ah, but do you tend to change things like cars quite often?

Things like this, I tend to keep for some time, so i guess the attachment becomes stronger.
 
Crawley said:
Ah, but do you tend to change things like cars quite often?

Things like this, I tend to keep for some time, so i guess the attachment becomes stronger.
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I get attached to living beings, like pets and family.. Material stuff not so much. I occasionally get attached to a really nice jacket or pair of shoes? And if they start fraying and wearing down I have a hard time letting go.

Plus new clothes often look brick. Maybe it's generational? Because I am also pretty attached to my PS3 and laptop and other gadgets. 8-[

Who knows.
 
raboner said:
I get attached to living beings, like pets and family.. Material stuff not so much. I occasionally get attached to a really nice jacket or pair of shoes? And if they start fraying and wearing down I have a hard time letting go.

Plus new clothes often look brick. Maybe it's generational? Because I am also pretty attached to my PS3 and laptop and other gadgets. 8-[

Who knows.
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Hmmmm.....could be. Although saying that, my youngest was also gutted last night when the car went. It's the only one he's known (apart from the wifes 3 cars in the same time).

He, also, gets upset when he has his PS3 taken away for a week following bad behaviour!!!!
 
Wilsoooooon!

I tried the opposite once. Spent all my savings on an Amiga 500 and went to sleep crying, thinking I had thrown my money out the window. Paid nearly £500 for the thing.

I lucked out and sold it a few years later for £50 less than I initially bought it for.

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It's funny, I was thinking something similar. Generally I couldn't give a fudge about cars/inanimate objects, but since my daughter was born if I see any kind of baby animal nursing or whatever, I'm in pieces. Even the spider with babies on it's back in the pics n gifs thread had me cooing like a broody mum
 
I have a newspaper snippet from like 2000 where the league table after four games had us top of the league, above Middlesborough I think, talk about fudgein hoarding. I still keep it to this day as I thought I would never see spurs on top of the league EVER.

I think all the hoarding and attachments is down to one thing - sentimental value. Cars, as someone mentioned above, is a big thing. You can get better as you get older but it will never come close to your first brick simply because it lacks the sentimental value and experiences you had in your first car - be it first shag, first crash, first kiss, first getaway etc.
 
How do you guys feel about the house you grew up in?

I lived in Turnpike Lane for my first 4 years (so don't remember much about it) but then lived in a flat in Wood Green for the next 25 (bar 3 years at Uni).

I've lived in 3 other places since but my dreams are centred or placed in that flat. It may look different but it's still that flat I grew up in.

We left 12 years or so ago however I've never dreamt I was in any other house.
 
Papercut said:
How do you guys feel about the house you grew up in?

I lived in Turnpike Lane for my first 4 years (so don't remember much about it) but then lived in a flat in Wood Green for the next 25 (bar 3 years at Uni).

I've lived in 3 other places since but my dreams are centred or placed in that flat. It may look different but it's still that flat I grew up in.

We left 12 years or so ago however I've never dreamt I was in any other house.
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I live a fair distance from where I grew up, but often go on Google Earth to have a look at how it is now. Spooky to see the same trees and bushes I climbed in as a kid so much bigger now.
 
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