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Mom lets 7-year old son walk to park alone, arrested for child neglect

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Martin Peters
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A Florida woman who let her 7-year-old son walk alone to a park has been charged with felony child neglect.

Thirty-four-year old Nicole Gainey's son was en route Saturday to a park about a half-mile from his home when he stopped and sat at a nearby pool, according to an arrest affidavit. Lifeguards said they had seen the boy five previous times and one approached him to ask where his mother was.

Apparently spooked by the questioning, the boy fled, running across a six-lane road toward the park, where an officer found him and asked if he was allowed out alone often.

"Yes. She gives me the phone and tells me to go," the child told the officer, according to the report.

Police then arrived at Gainey's home, in Port St. Lucie, and she was arrested. Police say she told them her son went unsupervised to the park once or twice a week.

The Rutherford Institute, a Virginia-based civil liberties group, received calls about the incident from some who see it as an overreach by law enforcement. The group reached out to Gainey, who is now being represented by the organization's attorneys.

John Whitehead, the civil rights attorney who founded the institute, said that if officials were concerned about the boy's lack of supervision, a warning would have been sufficient. He said Gainey will not allow her boy to leave unattended again.

"She's a good mother, obviously," Whitehead said. "She wasn't a neglectful mother. She's scared and she's fighting."

A message left on Gainey's phone was not immediately returned.


bigstory.ap.org/article/mom-arrested-letting-son-7-go-park-alone

At that age I did not only walk to and from school, alone, but pretty much anywhere I needed to go to meet friends.
 
At that age I did not only walk to and from school, alone, but pretty much anywhere I needed to go to meet friends.

Yep same here, but notwithstanding, I do have a degree of sympathy with the authorities concerned (though even then, charging the mother with child neglect rather than say, having a quite word, does seem a gross overreaction). According to the story, the kid had been spotted a unsupervised in the park a few times, including hanging around a pool. I can see why that might set a few alarm bells ringing.

It's a actually a difficult line to straddle. If something untoward had happened to the boy, as remote as that risk might be, then there would likely have been some pretty severe criticism levelled at the authorities for failing to intervene and act on their earlier concerns.

It's funny how things have evolved. We're probably the safest we have ever been, yet the country (I appreciate this particular story is from the States) actually feels like a more dangerous place than it was 20 or 30 years ago. Partly I think, because in this age of 24 hour news and global connectivity, the world seems a much smaller place, where every instance of significant violence is accentuated so that it feels like it is occurring on our doorstep on a daily basis.
 
If the mother thinks her son can do this, why shouldn't he be allowed to walk outside on his own? Should there be an age limit? 10 years old? 15? 70?

I'm not from Ingerlund or the states, but I am from a similar sized town to Port St Lucie.
 
If the mother thinks her son can do this, why shouldn't he be allowed to walk outside on his own? Should there be an age limit? 10 years old? 15? 70?

I'm not from Ingerlund or the states, but I am from a similar sized town to Port St Lucie.

The thing is there are people beyond that age that shouldnt even be roaming the streets let alone live...
 
pretty sure i was out playing on the streets/allowed down the park by myself when i was that age
 
It's not about the generation as it is the location tbh. There was no way in hell my parents would have let me walk home from school by myself at that age.
 
Living in Tottenham aged 5-15 I weren't allowed in my own garden alone let alone down the street!!!!
 
I remember being in the B&H after a game once and someone had brought their kid, who looked like she wasn't old enough to be in school yet.

As if bringing her there while you're drinking and listening to other drunks singing Spurs chants isn't bad enough, she was on a leash that was tied to something, maybe a pool table.
 
Are all local news stories from countries not affecting the UK worthy of their own thread?

There are probably only a million or so today worthy of deeper consideration.

THIS IS NOT AMERICA. noooooo!.
 
Are all local news stories from countries not affecting the UK worthy of their own thread?

There are probably only a million or so today worthy of deeper consideration.

THIS IS NOT AMERICA. noooooo!.

A considerable percentage of the posters on here are not from or living in the UK. Why should we take more interest in stories related to it?

It's not about America or some (possibly) lazy, overweight single mom, but whether it's really neglectful letting your kid outside without supervision.
 
I used to walk to and from school at that age, wasn't very far.. and to the shops, a little bit further. It wasn't neglectful, it was trust and independence. We lived in a small, quiet area. No idea what Port St. Lucie is like. Could be Pleasantville or could be Compton.

Arresting the mother isn't the answer. America loves to arrest people though. So much so, Sesame Street has to deal with it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Pz3syET3DY
 
It's a actually a difficult line to straddle. If something untoward had happened to the boy, as remote as that risk might be, then there would likely have been some pretty severe criticism levelled at the authorities for failing to intervene and act on their earlier concerns.

I agree with the general tone of the thread that this is a clear overreaction but I disagree with this paragraph, I don't think the result of a choice should define whether a choice itself is acceptable or not. Put simply, the legality of the decision to let a child of 7 walk somewhere alone should be completely independent of whether something happens to said child. If it's wrong to let them walk home alone, it's wrong regardless of whether the child gets abducted for example. Similarly, if it's ok to let a child walk home alone, then it's still ok even if something terrible happens.

I understand it's tough, but the fear from parents of something happening is orders of magnitude greater than the actual possibility of such events. The worst part is that parents likely fret much more over things like child abduction than they do about more realistic dangers.

As a wise man once said, don't be afraid of things that happen in the news, they are rare by definition. Be afraid of the common dangers that are so common they don't make the news.
 
Well, I was in Hastings as a youngster, and was trying to picture what I was about at that age. I certainly know that I'd either be in Alexandra Park (often on own), on the seafront and old town, or climbing the rocks around the castle and ladies parlour - plus investigating any clump of bushes or woods for 'camps' or hiding places when trouble was afoot.

All of which my dad had done in the same area just before WW2 - except he didn't have the bomb sites that that nice mister hilter had installed.

One thing stands out, and that was the mods v rockers riot. I remember being alone on the promenade when they swept along the beach, kicking the bejeez out of some chap for trying to prevent them molesting his bird. At least they dragged him up the beach to the Sj John aid post (closed).

Thing is - wikipedia tells me that was May 64, so I was 5.

It never did me any harm.
 
In my day we we're simply told to go outside and play. Just anywhere around our parents. I had to walk to school every day, regardless of the weather. Football practice? Better hop on your bike.

Today parents have turned into personal chauffeurs and servants. Anything the kids want, they get. Can't wait for this generation of spoilt brats to grow up. They'll make today's lot of attention seekers look like little grey mice.
 
In my day we we're simply told to go outside and play. Just anywhere around our parents. I had to walk to school every day, regardless of the weather. Football practice? Better hop on your bike.

Today parents have turned into personal chauffeurs and servants. Anything the kids want, they get. Can't wait for this generation of spoilt brats to grow up. They'll make today's lot of attention seekers look like little grey mice.

What are you supposed to do? You let them go where they want and you get criticized as they could get molested or hurt themselves - keep them to close and your 'spoling them' because you don't want them to get molested or hurt themselves.

Anything the kids want they get? Yeah, the kids really want to be the ones who have their mum walk them to school! Parents these days want to do all these things to keep them safe because sensationalist news tabloids will blow up storms about the dangers out there. Nothing to do with anyone or anything, just a natural reaction society has to things being drilled into their minds.
 
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